There must be something in the water at the moment but I’ve been fired up a lot these days.
In a good way. I attended a whole day of passionate women talking about feminism and human rights issues. I’ve been watching some inspiring documentaries about the fight against racism with Mr Surfer.
Things have been puh-retty heavy around here but I’m loving it. I’m relishing the intellectual stimulation.
So, it got me very angry seeing this photo floating around on my FB feed.
Jodi Gordon decked out in perfect, flawless make up and hair and red lace, carrying her new born baby girl, Aleeia.
Red effing lace.
To add insult to injury, the comments on the post were from women gushing how beautiful she looked.
“Oh, how does she do it?”
“I have never looked like that, even when I had a new born”
Er, that’s because no one looks like that after having a newborn.
And the worse one, “I wished I looked like that when I had my baby”
Seriously? Do you? Do you??
It comes back to that whole argument how celebrity mothers just don’t keep it real. And as I don’t care about sounding like sour grapes, they’re indirectly making us mums feel bad. Stirring that bee hives nest that mums are upset in seeing these images of perfect celebrities because in fact, they are just jealous.
Yup. That’s it. I so want their life. I desperately want to parade in a hospital ward wearing scratchy red lace and smearing thick foundation make up and lipstick over my newborn.
Please. Just stop it.
Here’s the truth:
I don’t want Giselle Bundchen telling me that anything but breast milk is poison for my babies. I don’t want to see Miranda Kerr, looking all sexy with a silk robe breastfeeding her child and captioning it “Just another day at the office”. I certainly don’t want Gwyneth Paltrow telling me that working mothers with a 9 to 5 job have it so much easier than an actor’s schedule of 14 hour working days, 2 weeks straight in “another town”
The internet is now a place where we can see real life – whether it’s confronting, ridiculously exaggerated or whatever.
But at least you have the option to see what reality can be. So for those who celebrities who think we don’t know better and can’t see behind the bullshit:
Don’t insult my intelligence.
Because this is reality and I’m not ashamed to show it.
Me, a few hours after having my stomach cut open to have 2 babies aggressively pulled and tugged out.
At the time, I thought it was so ridiculous to have a photo taken whilst in that state but now I’m glad I have it. Because this, my friends…is how it really happened.
Yes, I’m smiling but that’s because I’m high as a kite and thought it was bloody awesome that I couldn’t feel my legs but they looked like 2 chunks of dough.
Note: no red lace.
***Update: A reader has advised me that the photo of Jodi was actually taken during the christening, not straight out of hospital. My apologies. In the midst of all that emotion, I should’ve done further research. That’s what happens when you see red (lace). In any case, the context of this post still stands. I have no issues with mothers looking good and “making an effort”. I would just like to remind people that images like Jodi’s are the extreme exception and not necessary the rule when it comes to the realities of motherhood.***