Since becoming a mum, there’s the constant worry about the heartache and suffering in this world. Trying to protect my innocent children, sadly it’s inevitable that at some stage, they will see it, experience for themselves.
Just as we’ve spent most of this year grieving and mourning, tragedy has hit my family in Indonesia again.
It’s unfathomable, so unfair.
As the grief sets in, there is anger, repeatedly asking the inscrutable question:
“Why do bad things happen to good people?”
And when those circles in my head exhaust themselves, there’s just tears. All over again.
Speaking to my mum on the phone, discussing the dire condition of our family member, she kept talking with hope, like there’s a chance of survival.
Despite the bedside vigil and preparations for a goodbye, my mum’s unwavering sense of faith and steadfast belief in miracles, she’s adamant he’s going to pull through.
Who am I to shun such determined conviction?
For a woman who has experienced so much hardship and sadness in her long life, including the tragic death of her first husband during the same car accident she was in, she has also seen her sister fully recover from a week long coma.
My mother, of all people knows that alongside adversity, there are also miracles.
It’s not naïve or airy fairy to believe in them.
In this complex and achingly complicated world, just as we can’t find the answers for misfortune, miracles don’t need explanation either.
They just happen.
Do you believe in miracles? Or is it silly to think they exist? Have you ever experienced one?
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I don’t believe in miracles, but I do believe in medical science – I tend to think they can fix everything (and am taken by devastating surprise when they can’t, even if the person was trying experimental drugs or procedures – I think the new cure has to be discovered at some point and that could be it)
I am very glad your mums sister survived.
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Oh Grace! I am so sorry, sweetheart.
I absolutely believe in miracles but I know that when you are experiencing the moment, it is hard to have faith and feel hopeful. The generations above us did not have as much as we do, so when you lack material posessions and peel off all the unnecessary layers, hope still features strong. Our mums are good at that.
Stay strong and keep up your faith in yourself, the family and the power of positivity. X
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Thank you for sharing such an honest and deep post, Grace. I’m with your Mum on this one, I certainly believe in miracles. Much love to you and yours xx
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To be honest I’m not sure if I believe in miracles, goodness knows I’ver prayed and wished for them in the past but they just haven’t happened. Sending you and your family lots of love xx
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I’m so sorry to read of your family’s struggles. I hope you get that miracle xx
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I’m so sorry to hear about your family member Grace. Your mum sounds like an incredible person. xxx
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I believe that too much good stuff happens to me for it to be chance. Sometimes when things go really well for me I see my brother looking down and helping me out. So not *technically* miracles, but I’m sure we’re being watched over. Does that make sense?
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I like to believe in ‘incredibly unlikely but still possible positive events’. Miracles minus a deity I guess. I hope your Mum gets one this time x
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I sure do believe in miracles. I really hope one is due your families way.
I’m so sorry to hear your family is once again by a loved ones bedside and faced with loss.
Many prayers and strength to you and your Mum xx
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I like to believe in the good and the miracles. I really hope you do too. I’m so sorry to hear that things aren’t so good for you guys right now. Sending lots of love xxx
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Grace, i’m so sad that your family is being tested, yet again! I absolutely believe in miracles and I’m praying for one for you.
I love your mum’s conviction x
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I believe in miracles AND medical science. Your Mum sounds so strong and resilient. It must be hard for you Grace being so far away. My thoughts are with you lovely girl x
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I really don’t know what I believe in any more, but I do hope the right miracle comes your way in this case. I’m so sorry to hear that your family has had to endure so much this year. xx
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I believe in miracles but you have to put your Faith in someone who can perform the miracle for you. I believe God performs miracles everyday which we all take for granted or blame it on coincidence. i will keep your family in my prayers Grace. X
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Sending you and your family all my best wishes and most positive thoughts during this difficult time. I haven’t experienced any miracles but that is not to say I don’t think they cannot happen xox
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I believe in miracles and I hope one happens for your family. Love to you. X
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My brother was in a coma for over two weeks, has half his brain removed or damaged and now has 3 beautiful children, wife and works damn hard. So many miracles right there. So pleased to hear your family has had some good news.
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I’m so sorry to hear that tragedy has hit your family again so soon Mama Grace. Stay strong and like your mum, I do believe in miracles too. The world is a terrible place without hope and everyday, small miracles happen without us noticing sometimes. Will help pray for your family member xox
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Lots of love to you, Gracie. xxx
Geez that’s tough for your mum, you and your entire family. I agree that shitty things happen to the nicest people and it sucks so much. Strength and love to everyone, especially you. xxx
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I’m so sorry to read of your family’s difficult time. I think everyone takes strength in such situations in different ways, and your mum is one whose optimism and belief in miracles sustains them.
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Grace, I am really sorry to hear that this has is happening to your family again.
I do believe that when it’s our time, it’s our time and I also believe that if it’s just a ‘brush,’ it is a new beginning and can be seen to be miraculous.
None of that helps you of course.
I truly hope that all your woes have a positive outcome and you will be in my thoughts. xxx
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I hope everything works out. I believe in the power of positive thinking. Not sure if that is the same as miracles? Thinking of you and your family xx
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Oh Grace, so sorry to hear that your family’s going through MORE difficult times. Not sure about the miracle but my thoughts are with you and your family.
Deb
xxx
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YES. I do believe in miracles when it comes to the health of people. Not in the I might win a million dollars type, but in the you just never know what is happening in a persons body. Not often, but sometimes, when everything points to the end, it actually isn’t.
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So sorry to hear things are tough right now Grace. Thank God for your mum though and her unwavering faith. What an inspiration to you.
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Grace I am so sorry to hear of your family’s grief. It’s unfair that bad things happen to good people. I can’t say I believe in miracles as I haven’t witnessed one, but it’s not to say that I don’t believe in them. x
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I;m not sure I believe in miracles but I do believe in the power of positive thinking. Hugs to you and your family in such a tough time. xx
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Oh yes, I totally believe in miracles as I’ve witnessed several. My mom always says my son, Josh, was a miracle baby. Against all odds, he survived the pregnancy . Here’s my story to share – https://ofmiceandramen.blogspot.com/2008/06/josh.html and another miracle story here – https://ofmiceandramen.blogspot.com/2010/12/s-thulaashi-boxing-day-tsunami-miracle.html
Hang in there, Grace.
Sending you lots of hugs and prayers!
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Grace, I am so sorry that shit has been happening for your family again, it’s really not fair. I absolutely do believe in miracles, I’ve seent oo many not too!
P.S. It was lovely to see you and catch up today xxx
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I do believe in miracles even though I haven’t experienced any (although you could say us getting pregnant against the odds we faced was a miracle). I hope your mum is right and he somehow pulls through.
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I know it is NOT THE SAME THING at all, but my bunny rabbit, Bowie Bonbon was walking a little funny a couple of Fridays ago. The vet wasn’t sure what was wrong with him but urged us to bring him back if needed. By Saturday morning, he was paralysed with rolling eyes and a brain injury and paralysis caused by a parasite. Apparently 52% of bunnies carry it and only 6% go on to develop the illness.
We took him to the vets on Saturday morning, expecting to have to put him down. They admitted him to bunny ICU and nursed him. They warned us that it might take weeks for him to be well enough to return home and even then, he might need to be syringe fed for weeks. He might have a head tilt for the rest of his life and almost certainly limp. By Tuesday, he was eating by himself. A few days later he came home. A few days after that, his severe head tilt is barely perceptible and the slightest drag on his hind paw is the only sign there’s anything wrong with him.
I know it’s only a bunny, but he is part of our family. His recovery is definitely miraculous. Good things can happen. Sadly, bad things can happen too, but there is always hope xx
Thinking of you, you gorgeous creature xxx
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He’s not just a bunny, Kimba. He’s a precious part of your family. Miracles – big, small – they ALL count. Thank you for your thoughts x
I’m down with miracles. Medicine can do soooo much now but there is a strength in human nature we underestimate sometimes and somewhere in that space miracles are born. Hope is a good thing. I remember deciding when my boy was in hospital there was no point expecting the worst, it wouldn’t make me feel any better if the worst did happen and would’ve wasted all that precious time with my boy thinking the worst.
So good to see you and I’m sorry I had no idea x
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So very sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with all your family. From a personal perspective, I think it’s important even when things are dire to have hope.
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Miracles do exist – they happen every day…..life is like that – miracles waiting to happen.
I am so very sorry Grace about your family member and I send love…..
But sometimes life turns out different, sometimes better, sometimes not so good. But everything happens for a reason – be it a miracle where the person gets better or a miracle where the person is taken from their pain here on earth
As a person who has seen first hand what cancer can do to those that we love, I have asked the same question “Why does bad things happen to those that are good” – to those who looked after their body when others abuse their own bodies but keep on living.
There is no answer.
But I do believe that through life journey we grow, we learn to appreciate the smaller things in life, and we learn to love those around us deeper {more hugs, more kisses, and more love to those that are still here} so maybe the miracle is that life lesson in itself is the reason why.
i think your Mum is strong, brave, beautiful and has faith – even if the outcome is not one that ends happily – its the journey along the way that makes life worth living.
Sending love and prays your way – so very sorry that your family is hurting
xxxx
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I think it’s amazing that your mum has such strong faith. I do think that it’s important to have some sort of hope that the worst isn’t always going to happen because that is when depression really takes hold. Sending you love xx
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I think waking everyday is a miracle. I think we focus too much on defining miracle as a life and death situation, but, I think it is the smaller wonderful everyday things that are the true miracles.
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I’m just getting around reading your post now Grace. I’m so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers go with you and your family.
I do believe in miracles Grace. They happen every day, but the problem is that we are often too blinded by our own problems to see them.
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Thinking of you lovely lady x
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