Is there a little bit of crazy in all of us? And how much of it do we show to our partners?
Modern day philosopher Alain de Botton was in town over the weekend to promote his new book, “The Course of Love”
Speaking at the Opera House, his topic was obviously on love. But his angle was unconventional and surprisingly refreshing.
We’re dangerously caught up in a world of love based on Romanticism, de Botton explains.
Exciting, intense, deep love that happens impulsively and our soul mate knows us inside out without us even ever having to say much because well, they just “get” us.
Be rid of all those unrealistic notions because the key for a lasting relationship, claims de Botton, is to upfront about how crazy we really are.
We can then automatically reach the conclusion that no one is easy to live with.
This could have saved my husband some suffering.
No doubt, my little quirks were endearing during early courtship – wearing hot pink bed socks, solving Sudoku on the bog, snoring in the cinema.
But now he has committed a LIFETIME with the she devil who after showering and using up all the hot water, always leaves a wet towel on the bed.
I kinda agree with de Botton. But he also assumes that prior into entering a relationship, we should already know what makes us crazy.
Gee, I’m in my mid-40’s and I’ve only touched the tip of my insane iceberg.
Then I also think, if we want to just lay all our imperfections out there from the get go, we may as well spend an evening speed dating.
After all, isn’t figuring out the flaws the very essence of being in a relationship? Finding forgiveness in each other’s mistakes.
In the journey we take with our partners, through their annoyances and misgivings, isn’t there the opportunity to see our own?
What’s your endearing quirk, er, I mean quality? Who snores – you or your partner? Are you familiar with Alain de Botton?
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