It’s a question I get asked a lot these days.
Random people tend to particularly like asking while I’m dealing with a twinlet tantrum or chasing them as they run in opposite directions.
“Haha ! Depends on the day you ask me !” I manage to force a fake laugh as I scurry away, trying to catch one.
It seems to be a bit of entertainment for some people; seeing if a parent of twinlets would dare want any more.
It’s like they’re asking if I’m up for some more torture; wanting to see if I’m crazy enough to experience another dose and a half of sleep deprivation.
“What if you have another set of twins ???” is the next favourite line.
Yet, none of these people know that I would love to have another. And if we had another set of twins – God help me – I know we would somehow manage. There’s plenty of love in this house for more.
But there’s a few factors to consider.
First and foremost is finding the blessed time AND energy to procreate. Have I mentioned how dawg-gone friggin’ exhausted I am these days ???
The other important point is the fact that I’m around the corner from the 40’s shop. And I’m not sure whether by the time I get there, the baby producing aisle will still be open and available. Know what I’m sayin’ ?
Even if we just put aside that second issue for just a moment and focus on trying to find some time for a bit of bow-chica-bow-wow in the bedroom.
The whole process has become so clinical and almost unromantic…it’s actually laughable.
Two weeks after “Flow’s Come To Town” I promptly let my husband know that I’m ovulating. (Well, I think I am, anyway…).
The moment the sentence leaves my mouth, I realise how far we’ve come from our raunchy-can’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other-child-free days.
How did we get to this stage of such complacent abstinence ?
A couple of months ago, I decided to head to bed early. It was my cue to let my beloved know I was *ahem* ready.
A couple of hours later, the light finally switches on in Hubby’s head and he manages to tear himself away from the telly and makes himself to the bedroom .
By this time, I am well and truly in the depths of the slumberland forest.
Hubby tried a couple of his “special” moves to wake me but in the midst of deep sleep…I pushed him away.
“Sorry, Lovey…I’m just too tired,” I apparently mumbled in my sleep-talk.
Yikes !
I NEVER say no to a bit of bedroom action !!!
At the same token, there have been a few momentous occasions where I – the obvious sex goddess that I am – have also been (Shock, horror !) rejected due to sheer exhaustion.
So all this push-pull activity in the bedroom is surely telling us something.
I’m not ready.
Neither is Hubby.
But, with the odds starting to stack up against me in the baby stakes, I wonder if we will ever have the chance to be.
I guess I just have to leave it in the hands of Whoever.
Happy to have another.
Feeling extremely blessed with two.
Miss Pink says
You son’s are ADORABLE. Oh gosh they give me baby fever and i’d totally have another 2 if that was the choice! Lol.
Good luck. Whichever way. I am sure you still have more time than you realise.
mamagrace71 says
Awww…why thank you, Miss Pink! Thanks for dropping by 🙂
How was your head yesterday ?
Mine was thumpin’ loud n hard…lol
Miss Pink says
Ahh mine was fine. I was up bright and early and visiting with the great grandparents too.
Melissa Bannan says
OMG, you are SO funny and real! Love ya xoxo
Also, one DOES have to be logged into FB to be able to ‘like’ the blog for that day.
mamagrace71 says
Awwww…thanks, Mel. Love ya right back 🙂
Good question – Have never liked one of my own posts. I have a feeling you might have to be logged in…Let’s catch up soon xxx
mamagrace71 says
Doh ! Just reread your comment ! I thought you were asking me a question. See, this is what happens when you’re sleep deprived and get no bedroom action…you lose the plot 🙂
Twinisms says
Ahhh, I understand. How did we find the time? Well, by waiting 10 years of course! And then another set of twins. No problem, you can totally handle it:) If you do, great & if not great too because look at those gorgeous babes you already have!!
mamagrace71 says
Thank you ! And if I get that second set…I’ll be asking you for lots of advice ! Over a glass of crispy white wine, of course 🙂
debwildhope says
You are hilarious Grace! Yes, it is clinical when you have your hands full!… but can be done and you might just enjoy yourself when you get there if you make the time/effort.
I can totally relate to the ‘knockin’ on the big 40 door’… the shop is around the corner for me too. I ask myself if I’ll live with regret if I don’t have another too. I can imagine it a bit of a different question though if you have twins first up. I am not in your shoes (or have lived the exhaustion of twins) but I’d say go for it! Life is short, breeding time is short… you’ll have plenty of time to be not exhausted later. 😉
mamagrace71 says
Thanks, my lovely !
You are so right – life and breeding time is short.
I will bite the bullet and have a cup of coffee to stay awake next time 🙂
Jen says
One of my best friends living in Manchester has two sets of twin boys, born just under 2 years apart. No history of twins in her nor her husbands family either. So it’s not an impossible dream, but I’m sure you can imagine the hard work! As for the “are you planning any more?” question. People have been asking me that ever since the day Joe was born. Literally – the day he was born! Give me a minute to get over this one for goodness sake! It just seems to be a thing you say to people with one or more children. Lately (being on the verge of the forties…) the question is more like, “are you planning on any more, because you’d better hurry up if you are…” I’m quite content with the two kids I have, but I feel like saying I want more just to prove I’m not THAT old!
mamagrace71 says
Wow ! 2 sets of twins within 2 years ???!!!! Amazing !
Yeah, you’re right. It’s just something people feel they have to say. When really, all they need to do is stay silent 🙂
Kristyn says
My dad’s previous motto was “stop at two” then they had my sister and it became “three is a family” hahahahha
mamagrace71 says
Bwahahaha! That’s a good one! 🙂
Christine says
Hey at least you got two with one go! heheh
mamagrace71 says
True, true ! Double the blessings, indeed 🙂