On the occasional Sunday, we like to go to our favourite yumcha restaurant and get stuck into noodles and dumplings.
There was one particular outing though, I won’t forget and it’s unfortunately not due to the delicious food.
With the restaurant located on the third and highest floor of the shopping mall, my livewire boys bolted out of the lift and straight to the glass railing.
An elevated ledge underneath gave my boy the leverage, his shoes gave him the grip to start climbing UP and almost over, with about a 50 metre drop.
It all happened in a terrifying nano second.
I leapt and grabbed my 4 year old. Immediately getting down on one knee to be at eye level with him while shaking in shock, tried to explain that he was never EVER to do that again.
I shudder as I type this.
As for the tragic incident with the 4 year old boy falling into the gorilla enclosure at Cincinnati Zoo, there was only so much of the horrible backlash and comments I could stomach.
We could go in circles about what happened, what should’ve happened and what didn’t but should’ve but let’s strip that all aside for a moment and get to why everyone has jumped on this story (and particularly the poor mother):
Remember being told, “If you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”?
It seems that over the years, the old adage has caused a lot of pent up angst and judgment and social media gives the permission to spew it all out.
But here’s what I figure with leaving comments on a story such as the Cincinnati Zoo incident.
First ask the question: “Am I making a valid point or am I just seeking my own validation?”
If someone feels they need to let the interwebz know that they would never dream of being such a negligent parent and do such a horrendous thing, what purpose does it serve? Was it just to give themselves a virtual pat on the back….until their next parenting eff up?
Judgment is simply a hard-arse reflection of ourselves.
For the moments we desperately want to rip into someone for being judgmental: Forget it.
Using the same aggressive tone to red light is just feeding into the perpetual vicious cycle of vitriol. If someone tried to call me up, I’d just feel more entitled to my opinion. No matter how many links you send to back up your argument.
If you are caught in the midst of trolls and judgment (and I truly hope you never are), get the hell out. Don’t engage. Don’t rebuke. It’s truly not worth your sanity and dignity.
Shut that account down STAT and wait until it washes over.
And it will.
I hope the 4 year old boy’s parents realise it too.
Ever been in the throes of judgment? Is your child a livewire? Got a favourite saying about judging others?
1. Follow With Some Grace.
2. Sign up to the awesome Digital Parents community ( if you haven’t already done so). DP was created by Brenda Gaddi who happens to be the creator of FYBF. She’s also created 4 gorgeous kidlets. In case you’d like to know. Or maybe not. But we’ll share that info just the same.
3. Add your post URL to the FYBF linky. Please only link up one post.
4. Grab the funky FYBF button and post it on your sidebar. Help spread the blogfloggin love.
5. Visit the blogs of your fellow FYBF’ers and share the comment love