I’ve been thinking a lot about self-preservation.
Life is life and at this particular stage, it’s overwhelming, stressful and just plain exhausting. I’m exhausted just talking about how exhausted I am.
It’s also very boring.
So, I’m looking back to help me move forward.
Aside the ebbs of life are the moments of seamless motion.
Motherhood, relationships, career – when everything is moving in a perfect, balanced flow.
And because perfect isn’t perfect enough, we decide to take more on; more responsibilities, more projects and the obligation to fulfill even higher expectations. Sometimes, it’s what others place on us. More often than not, it’s what we innately bring on ourselves.
Chatting over coffee with a friend a little while ago, she told me how the past couple of years, the stress of work and being on call 24/7 to her clients and boss had taken its toll.
The more flexible and accommodating she made herself; the more her health suffered. Not to mention her private life.
But it’s not about what’s right or wrong.
It’s about what’s in your immediate control; being comfortably aware of what your limits are.
Self-preservation is the precocious balance of what is expected of you and what percentage of that you’re willing to fulfill. How much of that is actually more than ample.
My friend eventually left her job and started her own business. Since our coffee conversation, she’s completely altered her lifestyle. She eats healthily, exercising and relishing in the rekindled romance with her partner.
And in a positively glowing way, I almost didn’t recognize her.
I often think of my friend’s story.
It’s a reminder that I do have a say.
I have the right to manage expectations.
Self-preservation isn’t about selfishness or weakness.
It’s knowing that my enough is actually plenty. And then some.
How do you manage expectations? Do you have an inspiring friend? Is life at an ebb or is it flowing at the moment?
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