Once in awhile, when retiring to bed, Mr Surfer and I optimise the peace and quiet and delve into a heart to heart conversation.
Another day over, bedtime seems to be most apt to assess the current household situation, iron out the bugbears but more importantly, start the groundwork conversation for future decisions.
Without the kids interrupting our train of thought or the pressures of getting through the day’s routine and errands, it’s a special opportunity to talk about our hopes, dreams and desires.
In the still of the night, speaking in gentle whispers, we discuss the twinlets’ education (private or public…I’m for public), our travel plans (an upcoming family holiday to Bali and Jakarta for the twinlets to finally meet their extended family) and our ultimate goal to spend substantial time living and working overseas (New York? Why not?).
All these talks are working towards the path of happiness for our little family.
Needless to say, I cherish these moments.
A Family Portrait is Macquarie Bank’s groundbreaking study into the attitudes and behaviours of Australian families, examining their values, hopes and dreams, big events and day-to-day challenges.
According to the research findings, “Those who discuss their hopes and dreams and financial goals are happier than those who don’t.”
And alongside politics (59%), the behavior of our relatives (56%) and the state of the world (55%), 54% of us talk about our hopes and dreams.
Nice to know we’re a nation of talkers but a happy one at that too.
Along with Nic (Planning With Kids), Maria (Mums Word) and Fi (My Mummy Daze) I was lucky enough to be invited by Macquarie Bank to a morning tea hosted by journalist, Angella Mollard to discuss the stats and what they mean to us as mothers, wives, professionals and females in general.
When it came to the topic of chores, 68% of men believe they do their fair share of the cleaning but when the women were asked, only 44% of their partners say they really do the cleaning. Hmmmm…When it came to cooking, women said they did the majority of it and funnily enough, men were in complete agreement. (Guys, listen up! We totes don’t mind if you make us some Man Spaghetti once in awhile!!!)
Because of the intimate setting and as each of us came from different backgrounds holding diverse experiences, the discussions were fluid, candid and full of perspective from all different angles.
Productive. Informative. Thought-provoking.
I actually went home and that night, made the conscious effort for Mr Surfer and I to have another heart to heart.
Because in life, having dreams and goals isn’t enough. Talking about them is taking accountability and responsibility for their fruition; it’s that one step closer to achieving them.