Introducing the next FYBF Featured Flogger, yo!
I finally met Rachel in real life at the #NNB2012 drinkie poos and that was the clincher. I pleasantly discovered that she wasn’t all about the serious…especially when it involved a glass (or 3) of vino and some greasy chips…heh.
Guaranteed you’ll be snorting your favourite beverage out your nose as you read Rachel’s hilarious, yet insightful post.
Movies the whole family can’t enjoy
Remember when you were younger and you’d be watching telly with your mum or dad and a sex scene would come on? Everything would suddenly get very awkward in the loungeroom while nobody breathed and waited for it to end, preferably quietly.
A few years ago I discovered something even more awkward than watching sex scenes with your folks. Watching them with your folks and your kids.
I was on a mother-daughter-mother movie date with my 70-year-old mum and 10-year-old daughter. My daughter had been desperate to see Juno, the hot film of the moment. I’d had some reservations about it. It was rated M, and I worried that it glorified teen pregnancy. But her dad had seen it and said it would be fine. (I would later discover he’d slept through half the film.)
If you’ve seen Juno, I’m sure you can see where this is going.
Some highlights:
- A 16-year-old girl drops her undies to climb on top of her teenage boyfriend to have sex with him.
- A close-up on boys’ crotches while contents of their baggy running shorts bounce around in slow-mo and the teen girl’s voiceover talks about “pork swords”
- A girl says that berry-flavoured condoms makes her boyfriend’s “junk smell like pie”.
You get the drift. It was mortifying. I couldn’t have been more uncomfortable if I’d been wearing a hair shirt while sitting on a bed of nails as water dripped onto my forehead.
I thought the film was great. I just wish I’d seen it on my own, or with a girlfriend, or my husband. I also wish I’d known about a couple of websites that have since become my bible when I need to judge the appropriateness of a movie for my children.
These websites detail everything in a film a parent might be concerned about for their children, under categories such as language, drugs, sex and violence. Reading these guides will completely ruin the film for you, but better that than ruining your kid’s innocence. Or worse, your mum’s.
For parent-friendly reviews of movies, check out:
Common Sense Media and Kids in Mind
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kirri says
Ahh – hilarious and mortifying!!
What I would really love to know Rachel, is how you dealt with the sitch? Did you sit in uncomfortable silence or try a distraction tactic? I would have gone for a continuous coughing fit or spilt my glass of water…
Great feature Grace!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Kirri I just kept thinking “I’m sure it’s going to be ok, that has to be the last awkward moment”, and I’d start to relax when BAM, there’d be another. It would have been too dramatic to leave, and I kept thinking about her dad saying it was fine (though I was seriously questioning his sanity) and my mum is a conservative Catholic so I was just hoping she was enjoying the choose life theme!!
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mamagrace71 says
LOL!
Do you remember the 80’s Rob Lowe/Demi Moore movie, “About Last Night”…I actually went and saw that with my dad! I remember watching the full on sex scene and thinking, “OMG…when is my dad going to drag me out of this cinema?”
He never did. We just sat there. Me sinking in my seat.
Catherine Rodie Blagg @CoTaaB says
Yay for Rachel. I love reading The Kids are Alright, but it does scare me too – at least with all the great info ill be well prepared when my girls hit their teens! xx
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
It’s better to be well-informed even if it is a bit scary I think 🙂
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mamagrace71 says
The more info we have, the better prepared we’ll be for those scary teen years, C! 🙂
Leanne@Deep Fried Fruit says
Rachel is the bomb! I actually recommend her website to clients all the time. There are times I don’t even know where to begin reading because you want to absorb all the information immediately.
And that movie thing … yeah … it happens all the time. You just can’t work out these days when M actually means M or when it means “be mindful” or “medium” or “minimal” or when it actually had a huge alarm going off and means “MATURE MATURE MATURE”.
Now I can look up a website and find out!
Thanks Rachel … and thanks Grace 🙂
Happy Friday
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Yes, the sneaky M. At ten, you could easily have a blanket rule – no M rated movies. But she had watched the Harry Potter films no worries. I was saying no to 95% of M rated films – this one slipped through the net. Thrilled you like the site Leanne.
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mamagrace71 says
You’re welcome, Leanne!
And yes…they’re a bit vague on the M thing sometimes, aren’t they?
Zanni, heart mama says
Congratulations Rachel! I love your blog and your post and all that you represent!
And to everyone, I am so embrarrassed as being new to FYBF I had taken the wrong button for my side bar, and had mistakenly put up the honour badge instead of the FYBF badge. So apologies for that! I will read instructions better in future! Now I know what the honour badge is…
Xx
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Thank you Zanni, appreciate it.
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mamagrace71 says
No worries, Zanni! Just glad to have you link up with us again 🙂 x
Rhianna says
Such a well deserved featured flogger. Standing on the precipice of parenting a teenager The Kids Are Alright is one of my favourite places to hang. Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Thank you Rhianna x
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Bree @ Twinkle in the Eye says
Oh Rachel, I think we have all had that awkward moment!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
I’m sure!
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Daisy says
Oh my Goodness!! I can’t imagine watching that with my mother and child!!! Hilarious! You poor thing!!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Thanks for the sympathy. And now I’m going to check out your delicious cake. My favourite cake recipe is the Tunisian Orange Cake, but adding coconut is genius.
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Veronica @ Mixed Gems says
Great post and references, Rachel. Thanks for these. My little girls are too young for me to consider most movies for now, but that day in our collective future is never far from my mind. For now, I’m still grappling how to keep them out of the “pink” aisle in most toy stores!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Veronica I also have a 3 and 4 year old, and I took them to their first movie recently – I was tossing up between Ice Age 4 and Brave, and I again consulted these websites to see exactly what was in them. I chose Ice Age in the end, but they still found it scary! They can watch all the Ice Age movies on DVD in the safety of their own home no problem, but put it on the big screen at the cinema and it’s a different story. They still didn’t want to leave though!
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carmen says
Thanks Rachel! I’ve been looking for a site that assists with movie appropriateness. 🙂
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Excellent!
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Ai Sakura says
Ohhh I remember those awkward tv moments with parents. Praying desperately we won’t have that with our girl in the future but guess we can’t escape. Murphy’s Law or something like that :p
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Unless you live like a hermit, it’s going to happen 🙂
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Aroha @ Colours of Sunset says
Every time I read Rachel’s website I walk away singing Robbie Williams!
This is a funny story. I remember being dragged out of Thelma and Louise because my mum and her friend had taken their daughters to see it, not realising how terrible it was. I think it was about 15 minutes in, maybe 30, and we were hauled outta there!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Probably around the scene Geena and Brad’s love scene?
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Aroha @ Colours of Sunset says
I can’t remember and haven’t seen it since. Don’t they kill a guy fairly early on?I think it might have been around then! LOL!
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Martine@themodernparent says
Yay Rachel…one of my most favourite bloggers. I did laugh with this post! There is nothing worse! Great tip on the websites too 🙂
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Thanks Martine for the compliment 🙂 x
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Kylez...aka...Mrs.P says
Oh man, I remember that feeling with my parents all too well! I think the first time I was really aware of it was during Forest Gump, oh man there were so many moments in that movie that were just so uncomfortable for my 14 year old self, and I’m sure my parents as well!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
I can tell you are scarred.
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Emma says
Oh no! I couldn’t help but smile though. My kids are still young, but I do worry about that for the future!!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Bookmark those sites 🙂
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Pink Ronnie says
LOL. I’ll definitely bear this one in mind for the future… thanks Rachel!
Ronnie xo
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
No problems!
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Naomi says
I love Rachel’s website and was also lucky enough to meet her in real life 🙂
This post made me laugh, very awkward – poor Rachel!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Thanks Naomi, and I think back to our photog session very fondly.
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Lara at This Charming Mum says
Oh no, mortifying indeed! I loved Juno, but that was in the company of adult peers – your situation puts the film in a whole new light! I’m not looking forward to the teen years with my kids. I’m so glad there are experienced parents like yourself helping me prepare for what lies ahead.
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Glad to be of assistance 🙂 I’ll make the mistakes so you don’t have to.
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Happylan says
I loved Juno. But yes, can see how that would be mortifying!
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Apart from the child, there is the mother. If you had a young groovy mum, it would be entirely different 🙂
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Twitchy says
Hmmm… never happened to me and still a bit of time for us with Miss5.5, thank goodness…
I do however wonder about anyone who took nanna to see that lovely ballet film, Black Swan!! :O
We have a family tradition of pizza and movie night most Fridays and I never put anything on unless I’ve (spoilt it for myself) and cleared it. These links are great as up until now I’ve been using the IMDB app which you do have to scroll through to find the parental advice link.
Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve used these sites over the past few years.
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Emily says
Love it! Would have hated it if it had been me, but it wasn’t. So haha!
Love your work, Rachel. And yours too, of course, Grace! Thanks for hosting both FYBF and Rachel’s featured blogger guest post.
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Thanks Emily 🙂
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mamagrace71 says
It’s always my pleasure, Emily! Glad to see you enjoyed Rachel’s fine post 🙂 x
Mum of Adult Kids says
That’s so funny Rachel! I know I’ve had a few awkward movie moments with my kids over the years. I loved Juno, but I watched it by myself! 🙂
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Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right says
Clever lady 🙂
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Happy Little Feet says
Oh my God this was funny. I have not got kids old enough to see this, or watched it myself. Thank you for the warning.
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Tracey @ Bliss Amongst Chaos says
OMG, I think I would have died! I would have been embarrassed watching that with my mum too, but I can only imagine how it must have felt with your daughter!
Thank you for the mention of those websites! I didn’t know websites like that existed, and I’m glad they do. I will definitely be bookmarking those for future use! 🙂
xx
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Becci says
Similar situation with our daughter. Her dad has been taking her to see chick flicks for years (its their bonding time as I can’t stomach most of them), films like 27 Dresses, Never Been Kissed, Princess Diaries, etc. But she really wanted to see Juno when it came out as she was going through her slightly too young emo stage, at around 10 yrs old too. It must have been quite awkward sitting in a theatre as a grown man alone with a young girl watching those scenes but they really loved the movie. So much so it’s their favourite DVD and have been listening to the soundtrack for years. Awkward is watching the remake of Puberty Blues with my daughter while the ugly sex scenes were on – and she knows it was the movie of my teens.
I need to check out that website.
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